Okay, I admit it. One of my flaws as a person is that I don’t always like sharing something that took me a while to figure out.
You might know what I’m talking about. Someone was just like you, but they, unlike you and I, asked for help, and for some reason that MAY rub us the wrong way. “I didn’t ask for help. No one helped me…” blah blah blah, I’ve ridden that train. At one time, I’m pretty sure I was the conductor.
I used to be really bad about this. But honestly, and this is my personal perspective on it, it’s kind of a selfish feeling. Which is why I’m working on it. I WANT to be able to help others. I WANT to become more humble and kind.
Now, I’m not saying if you share these thoughts, you’re a bad person. What I am saying is these feelings left a bitter taste in my mouth. I would get annoyed or angered because people wanted help. They JUST wanted someone to help them. I mean, if you don’t want to help someone, then don’t. But that wasn’t enough. The bitter taste was still there.
And honestly…it is pathetic of me to get annoyed with people who want help. So what, if I learned things by myself and it took a while. There’s no reason someone can’t learn things in a sooner amount of time.
I think I’ve let some of my independence get to my head. Just because something may come easily to me it will not come easily to others. Example, I am TERRIBLE at math once we get past basics. Let’s not even TALK about graphs (shudder).
Just because someone doesn’t want to try to figure out things on their own first, doesn’t make them a bad person. In fact, would you not agree it saves time knowing what to do in the first place?
There’s a reason why I write about perceptive an awful lot because perception is everything. In my relationship with Christ, for example, I can either blame Him for the things I see now and am unhappy with, or I can trust Him, work on hope and faith, and anticipate the things I haven’t seen yet.
We either help others and ourselves with opportunities, or we stay locked in a cage holding the key…
Needless to say, my selfish stuff needs to go. Throughout the years, I’ve worked on being more open with others, and less secretive about things that benefit others.
Now, no, I’m not going to share my recipe for my shampoo bar that took me six months to figure out through trial and error, that’s a little different 😉
But tips on basic soap making, information on where I found videos and tutorials, yeah, I shouldn’t just stand and watch a person try and fail on the sidelines. “I remember those days…I use to be just like you.”
What makes us any better, those who HAVE experience, if we just keep it to ourselves? Why can’t we become better at helping others find their talents, and refine their craft sooner?
Same with writing and blogging.
That’s the real purpose behind my blogger 101 series. I don’t want writers or bloggers to struggle with what I struggled with. There are things I know bloggers need help with, and I have no clue how to do them some of them, and therefore I learn. For the purpose of knowing I can help someone else, and maybe, just maybe, God can teach me about humility and putting others in front of myself.
And, yes, I can’t lie, some of these things are really helpful to me as a blogger too because I learn things along the way 🙂
For those of you who read my main blog, you may have read a post sharing I’m working on changes relating to icons, logos, feature images, etc.
For about a year, I’ve seen bloggers share, “I’ve done this in Canva.” But no one really shares how, and I mean, I get it. Many of the blogs do not necessarily do tutorials on this stuff. I know some people don’t want to share because they’ve invested time, and I understand this.
But I also know what it is like being confused. Which is why I want to help others. I like knowing my experiences aren’t just beneficial to me. I can help others, and I want to. 🙂
Tomorrow or later this week (if I lose internet), I will have a post on places to look for good illustrations, and places to make logos, icons, work on feature images and more.
I’ve asked around and some of you amazing and kind bloggers have also shared places you’ve found that help you. I will be sharing those as well 🙂
Yes, I’ve updated everything again haha since this past weekend. I changed icons, logos, and blog looks for Peeking Beneath and Inside Cup. I’m very happy with the changes.
What has blogging taught you?