This topic is something I’ve seen a number of bloggers talk about, more so from their own experience. I’ve considered to talk about this, but in a constructive way to help bloggers, and especially new bloggers.
There are two relationships you will have when you have a blog:
- Relationship With Others – How do you interact with other bloggers
- Relationship With Your Blog – How active are you with your blog and your readers
Relationship With Others
1. Do Not Ignore The Blogging Community
Blogger 101 right here. If you want to grow, you need to step out and get to know the blogging community. Primarily, the bloggers who write about same things you write about, and then also bloggers you, in general, enjoy.
There is such support and beauty in this community. For so many years, I never felt like I fit in my own group. I’ve found my community here. I can’t begin to explain how happy this community has made me, knowing I have others I can share ideas with and talk to.
Be cautioned. Do not become a blogger with the goal of ONLY becoming big, making money, getting awards, etc. I started a blog so I would be able to have a sample of my writing available for publishers, and I also started so I could reach out to others.
If we let our selfishness and greediness rule our purpose of writing, it will reflect in how we act as a blogger.
2. Do Not Comment, “Follow Me”
If you’ve read other posts/topics on, “Things I don’t like others do,” commenting, “Follow Me,” is a huge pet peeve. Comments should reflect the post written. Wanting others to follow makes it feel like that’s the only purpose in viewing the post and commenting. It’s a big turn off. If you want others to follow you, make sure you don’t directly ask for follows.
Instead, if you want someone to check your blog, first considering searching for bloggers who write about the same themes/topics you write about. It’d be better to actually search for bloggers you really like and want to follow yourself.
Follow them, read their posts, and comment on their posts, ABOUT their posts. If you are involved with others, people will grow curious about you.
Feel free to share you write about similar topics, you’re glad you’ve found their blog, etc.
Be honest and genuine.
3. Do Not Follow For The Sake Of Getting Followed Back
Another pet peeve of a lot of bloggers, and people of social media. You follow, and then within a day or so, you unfollow. It comes across as very selfish.
Maybe that’s not at all what you intended, but unfortunately that’s how people see it.
It’s okay, if after a while of following someone, you realize, “Okay, this blog isn’t for me.”
Make sure when you follow someone, you are following them because you genuinely are interested in their blog, with no other gains than that.
4. Do Not Like A Post If You Don’t Read It (It’s Obvious)
Like other bloggers, you’re probably aware of notifications, and while you’re on WordPress, and suddenly get 3 to 7 notifications immediately by one particular blogger. You know they didn’t read your posts.
Honest time! I sometimes have considered liking a post without reading it, mostly because I want to show my support. But I stop myself from liking a post I haven’t read.
How can I really show my support if I only support their title, and not their writing? Bloggers write. We want the recognition for what we put into our work. We hope others support us as a writer, not for a post title.
Doing this only paints you in a bad light.
5. Do Not Comment Without Reading Or Skimming A Post
This is another pet peeve of bloggers, and doing this will make you look bad.
Similar to liking a post without reading, leaving a comment, without any idea of looking at the post, makes you appear to be a fraud. You look like you care, but you don’t invest the time to truly care.
It isn’t a good feeling to see someone try to appear like they really care and support you, when in truth, they don’t.
Doing these things can make other bloggers not want to check out your blog, read your posts, and follow you. In fact, these things may turn against you, and you will lose followers.
Be honest. Be genuine. Have the right motive.
And be patient.
Most people do not take off overnight.
Have you ever done these things to a blogger?
Have you experienced others doing this to you?
Pt. 2 talks about the relationship with your blog and your readers.
Read Part 2 | What Not To Do As A Blogger (Pt. 2)